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A blueprint for regulated, neurodivergent-inclusive leadership that upgrades listening, accuracy, pacing, and psychological safety at executive level.

Why Interrupting a Habit Works And Why It Feels Almost Impossible If discipline truly built habits, half of humanity would be enlightened monks by now.And every planner aisle in Target would be empty, we’d all be hydrated, well-rested, and mysteriously good at inbox zero. Changing a habit feels hard for the same reason your phone refuses to update when you finally  have time: the system prefers what it already knows — even if it glitches. Because beneath all the motivational

The real reason neurodivergent people struggle with weight? It’s deeper than food — it starts with the nervous system. Weight differences in neurodivergent people are often misunderstood.Research shows that neurodivergent individuals—including those with ADHD, autism, AuDHD, dyspraxia, dyslexia, sensory processing differences, and high sensitivity—experience higher rates of both obesity and restrictive eating disorders . This is not a matter of discipline, diet, or personal r

You just crushed a 14-hour workday , skipped two meals , ignored your body’s “Please rest” alerts —because you were “in flow.”Now you're on the couch, too wired to sleep , too fried to think . So you scroll. Snack. Drink. Scroll again. Numb out. Sound familiar?

The Missing Link Between GLP-1, Addiction, Insulin & Nervous System Regulation OR Why Ozempic Turns Down the Noise. Over the past weeks, I’ve been breaking down the hidden architecture of regulation — the mechanisms underneath mood, impulse control, cravings, stress tolerance, and emotional steadiness. In the first article, I introduced the nervous system like an engine: the sympathetic system  as the gas, the parasympathetic  as the brake, the vagus nerve  as the clutch, and

What happens inside your body before cortisol rises, dopamine misfires, or the vagus loses tone. In a previous article, I described the body as a regulation system: the autonomic nervous system supplies the gas and the brake, the vagus acts as the clutch, and the neurotransmitters form the internal dashboard for focus, mood, and reactivity. Yet one element often slips out of view — the fuel flow. Glucose may be the gasoline, but insulin is the system that controls how smoothl

Your nervous system is doing its very best, but modern life isn’t exactly helping. Our bodies were built for sabertooth tigers, not Slack notifications. Modern stress arrives in tiny hits — a message here, a deadline there, a fight with your inbox — until your system flips into constant high-alert mode. That’s when the fun starts: shallow breathing, gut tension, irritation for no reason, foggy mornings, sugar cravings, and the classic “why am I awake at 3 AM again?” moment.

When conflict arises, most people try—at least in some way—to understand what happened, repair the moment, or navigate the discomfort. DARVO is the opposite of that. It’s a manipulation pattern  that flips the relational dynamic: the person whose behavior is being addressed blocks accountability, escalates the interaction, and reframes the situation so you  appear to be the problem. The result is confusion, self-doubt, emotional whiplash, and a sense that the entire conversat

Many neurodivergent people know the experience of wanting to start a task, knowing it matters, and still feeling a wall between intention and action. Body Doubling is a gentle way to make that wall smaller. It means working in parallel with one or more people — online or in person — so that focus becomes easier and tasks feel more possible.

The Misaligned Triad of Human Behavior Much of human friction originates in a misaligned triad of regulation: timing, attention, and resonance. These three systems form the neurobiological foundation of coherence — the rhythm through which thought, emotion, and behavior remain synchronized. When one domain accelerates while another lags, communication falters and meaning fragments. A leader may think clearly yet fail to sense the emotional undercurrent; a team may feel deepl

What Does “Neurodivergent” Mean? Neurodivergence reflects the natural variety in how brains sense, process, and organize information. These differences span attention, perception, memory, sensory integration, and emotional regulation — core functions that shape how people think, connect, and lead (Den Houting, 2019). Rather than a deviation from the norm, they form part of the wider human cognitive spectrum. When organizations design with this diversity in mind, performance t

Attitude defines the architecture of collaboration, determining whether skill translates into cohesion or fragmentation. You hear it more often now:  attitude matters more than skill when it comes to hiring, because skills can be taught. I agree fully — and yet, " attitude" as a term is a wide stretch. .  :) The real question extends beyond hiring: how do those attitudes shape the climate people enter once they’re hired?  Skills determine performance; attitudes determine whet

Dopamine is more than a “feel-good” molecule. It is the neurochemical foundation of motivation, anticipation, and reward-driven behavior — the invisible architecture behind focus, creativity, and follow-through.

Our words travel faster than ever — yet understanding keeps falling behind. “When Connection Loses Its Body” looks at why tone vanishes online, how our inner narrator distorts meaning, and how to rebuild warmth, clarity, and trust in digital spaces.

rship rarely functions in absolutes. The relationship between autonomy and control operates along a dynamic continuum—closer to a finely tuned fader than a fixed switch. In practice, this calibration determines whether empowerment translates into performance or devolves into chaos. Adaptive leaders understand that autonomy without containment breeds misalignment, while control without trust suffocates initiative.

From the Drama Triangle to the Empowerment Triangle—what it is, why it hides in plain sight, and how to change it Why this keeps showing...

The psychology of friendship as a blueprint for trust at work. Why It Matters Human connection is one of the strongest predictors of...

Skills can be taught — capability and motivation drive sustainable leadership. If you’ve ever managed a team, you’ve probably used (or at...

Pretty Privilege in Leadership: Evidence, Bias Design & Correctives/ If you don’t think appearance matters, look closer. It shapes who gets hired, promoted, or trusted—often without anyone realizing it. 

Wait a second—EQ or GQ?  EQ has been hyped so much in leadership circles it could almost have its own glossy magazine. Picture it: EQ Quarterly—leaders posing in power stances with headlines like “10 Ways to Master Your Team’s Feelings Before Breakfast.” Fun to imagine.